Miscarriage Support 
Many couples resist telling their older children about the miscarriage, especially if they didn’t even know about the pregnancy. However, you will not be yourself and the children will pick up on the fact that something is not right. We need to tell them about the miscarriage because:
- They need to understand they are not responsible for what is wrong with us.
- They need to know that it is a common and normal experience.
- They need to be prepared for the possibility of you spending time in hospital and convalescing later.
- The situation is not permanent, we will all get better.
It will not be easy. Be honest, no half truths or phrases such as ‘I’ve lost the baby’, ‘the baby has gone to sleep’, ‘God took the baby to be with him’, ‘he has passed away’ or ‘our baby has gone to a better place’. These are confusing and may be misinterpreted and children can fill in the gaps and sometimes blame themselves. Perhaps they did not want the baby or did something naughty and feel it is their fault your baby has died. It is important to re-assure them that nothing they did caused this.
